Thank You Blog Buddies!!! Monday, Nov 9 2009

I think I have the most generous blog buddies around!  Xmas came early went I went to the post office this weekend.  I received this treasure from Nerd Girl

I love it.  It’s just a coincidence that I’m on this natural hair journey and she chose this as her give-away.   I haven’t read it all, but I can’t wait to.  I’ve skimmed through it,  and the second pic really stood out to me.

 

 

Then I was really surprised when I received this from S23. 

She told me that she thinks I’m going to like it and she is soooo right.  When T was little I started a lil journal for her.  I always felt like if I died young I wanted her to have words that I wrote specifically for her.  Morbid???  Well…that’s what I wanted.  This book is not exactly like that, but its absolutely something that the girls would treasure.

Thank you gals!!! I really have some of the best blog buddies around…TM send me a REALLY helpful package months ago, and maybe two weeks ago I received something from Pserendipity.  Ya’ll the best !

I don’t take the generosity that I’ve received lightly.  Rest assured that I’ll be paying it forward very soon…stay tuned and get to de-lurking..lurkers!

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What is at the top of your mountain? Tuesday, Nov 3 2009

Part of the reason why I share the details of what I go through in my daily life is because I want you guys to challenge me…to hold me accountable to those things that I say I’m going to do, or not going to do…be it in my personal relationships or my school/career aspirations.  So many of you inspire me for various reasons.  

The other reason I share so much is because I know one day it is going to be a joy to look back, once I’ve attained some of the things I aspire to.  Often times people don’t realize what others that have had to overcome to get where they are…they just see the blessing, but not the struggle. 

Stumbling blocks are a given especially when you are reaching towards the prize at the top.  I shared my experience the other week with needing to take this addt’l class.  It puts me at an 18 credit course load this semester.  As I mentioned, the fact that the Campus Director offered financial assistance made the pill a bit easier to swallow. 

Last week Thursday I was leaving school when the same woman who told me that I HAD to take this course stopped me.  Long story short in her very own style of tacky she told me that I needed to clear with financial aid so that I could take the course.  I countered with “No…Dr. Campus Director needs to take care of that”.  Ms. Waste of Oxygen said “No…that offered was rejected by the Dean“.  Was it her place to reveal that to me…she didn’t make the offer in the 1st place?  At that point I could have allowed my pressure to rise.  I shrugged and said “Ok, well that I guess that means I can’t take the course…that’s a no brainer” and I walked away.  She stood looking at me like I had 3 heads. 

What I have not shared is that I have an outstanding balance right now of $1,062.  My financial aid award should have covered all of my classes.  Something went awry, so this is what I’m left with.  My education is important so this will be dealt with, but it is another blow.          

Fast forward to last night.  I ran into Dr. Campus Director…I didn’t mention my discussion with Ms. Waste of Oxygen.  I asked about her original offer and it still stands, she even mentioned giving me books for next semester.  All should be in place by Wednesday.  It’s a good thing I recognize a waste of oxygen when I see one.  Why bother conversing with her when she has no final yes or no to offer.  Yup…stumbling blocks.           

I will be greasing her palm  showing my appreciation for her assistance.  I heard she loves breads.           

 What is at the top of your mountain?

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His voice Wednesday, Oct 28 2009

Last week I was a bit shook up at work when I received an email from my office manager.  I had already received my evaluation so it couldn’t be that.  My mind went to the worse case scenario.  People have been getting laid off here and there…quietly.  At that moment I said to God…”you didn’t tell me about this”.  

I was 18 years old, and  I worked for a very small stationary company as an accounts payable clerk.  There was alot of crap that went on in that office.  People yelling and arguing back and forth.  It made me so uncomfortable.  I stayed because my mother told me to just ignore it, and I knew I had a bigger goal.  I remember bringing home $210 every week.  I was RICH! 

I got ready for work that morning, sitting on the edge of my bed I reached for my underwear drawer and God said “You’re going to be fired today”.  I did a scooby doo “ahruuuuu”…I let it sit for 3 seconds and then I continued getting myself together.  When Mr.  Unz called “Kelly…come here” it hit me again and I knew what was coming.  I wasn’t on probation…I had never received a warning….I hadn’t screwed up anything, but I knew what was coming.  The whole way home I kept saying to myself “I KNEW IT“…I was amazed.

It was 2005.  I had to drive 30 mins (w/traffic) every morning to bring the girls to school.   They loaded in the back seat – knowing the rules they buckled up.  I was getting myself situated when God said “You’re going to be in a car accident this morning”.  No scooby doo this time, but I let what I just heard marinate for 2 seconds.  I then turned to the girls and said “Are your seatbelts on?” They said answered yes and I said “are you sure?“  T raised her brow at me…she was 7 years old…not much as changed.  I insisted they pull their belts tight just to be sure.  My seatbelt was secured, but I thought “well let me pull my seat back…if the airbag deplows I don’t want my face to get messed up“.  I did all that and then set on my way.  I dropped the girls off at school and then headed to where I park the car so that I could jump on my bus.  I was 2 minutes away from my parking spot.  I headed towards my green light when I was slammed into by a car trying to make a quick left turn before I reached the intersection.  Her timing placed her front fender right where my front tire and door were.  With my head resting on my steering wheel I said “This is it“. 

I had taken extra precautions when I heard the voice, but it wasn’t a dark cloud weighing over my head.  I wasn’t waiting for this major car crash to come, but here it was.  We both walked away unharmed.  There was damage to my vehicle, but it was repaired.  I shared this account with someone once and I was asked “well why did you drive that day?“.  I drove because I wasn’t told NOT to drive…I was simply warned.   However, if I had not driven that day how would I know that that was really His voice speaking to me?  How would I know that His hand that purposefully kept me from harm?  How could I build on my personal experience that He knows the beginning from the end and that sometimes he’ll let me in on what he knows, so that I can understand that He’s got my back?

There have been several times when I’ve had similar occurances.  As a result of my experiences I have become very careful when I hear His voice cautioning me.   I encourage you to develop your ear so that it is in tune with his voice.  God speaks.

It wasn’t the worst case scenario, but I am NOT happy about the change.  I do know that He has my back come what may.

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Weekend Turn-out Monday, Oct 12 2009

My massage was a big disappointment. It wass my fault tho…I didn’t request the guy who rocked my world.  This woman talked through it.  I pointed out a cut on my ankle so she’d be careful…she asked me how I got it, I explained I got it during my excursion in Cancun.  Then she asked if my vacation was expensive..smh.  When I was trying to relax I heard her stomach grumble.  Every so often it seems as though she was gasping for air…was she asthmatic?  I kept wishing it was over.   She sat on the edge of the table a few times.  She had no real technique other than just rubbing.   Unfortunately, for me it was a waste. 

I had a mouse in my house…I won’t tell you how I screamed and carried on, and I won’t tell you that when I took my mom to embark on her cruise the girls called me in sheer hysteria.  I also won’t mention that I was secretly glad that I wasn’t home.

I will say that the guy that I’ve been getting to know saved the day.  The girls jumped ship…they were like “We’re going to Daddy’s house and not coming back until it’s gone“  I don’t blame them at all.  I have a cat named Boots.  Boots was about her b.i.zness, but this game was taking too long.  Before my friend left last night I had him do some more checking.   He killed it, I was glad and then he felt bad. Oh well.  IT’S DEAD and now I can rest easy.  Rest easy is just what I did.  So much so that I woke up an hour late this morning.  I didn’t even rush.  I took my time.  That rest was much needed.

On Saturday my girls got baptized.  I was  SUPER PROUD MAMA! We’ve had a crusade going on at the church for 3 weeks.  The first week they asked parents to bring their young children.  I took the girls up…I didn’t realize it was for baptism.  T wasn’t having it.  I talked to her for a bit about the importance of this decision.  She listened and said no..so I left it alone.  The following Sabbath, she said..”Mommy I’m going to get baptized next week”.  I gave her a BRIGHT smile..and she said “don’t smile at me”…lol.  So Sabbath came…Bird decided she wanted to do it too.  We were in the back so that they could change into their baptismal robes.  T started to feel anxious and she wanted to renege.  Anxious went to panic with her shaking her head saying no.  Then she says to me “I’m not ready…you made me do it” *insert OH NO YOU DIDN’T JUST SAY THAT face*.  I leaned in and said “I never forced you to do this…we talked about it..you said no and I left it alone”.  “But I kept thinking about it” “Well if you were thinking about it then that is the Holy Spirit speaking…is the Holy Spirit STILL speaking to you?” *silence*  I then asked Bird if she still wanted to do it if T didn’t do it.  She got very emotional and cried in her hands. She didn’t answer, but her actions told me that she really wanted to do it, but she wanted to do it with her sister.  I left her alone with her thoughts and I prayed for her.  At the end of the service she was ready.

(I cut the video short because afterwards I couldn’t get any footage past that dang blue blanket.  I later found out that sometimes when they go down womens underparts are exposed so they use the blanket for privacy.)

T was SOOOOOO HAPPY! She kept saying “I feel sooo goood! I’m soo happy we made the right choice!”  Bird was happy as well.  As a mom I was overwhelmed with joy.

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*cue CeCe Peniston* Finally! Thursday, Oct 1 2009

This fiasco is FINALLY over.  I don’t know what happened, but a process that should have taken 2 weeks tops, actually took 7 months…7 MONTHS!  I’m just happy it’s over and I’m happy to report that that B- is now my A.  TAKE THAT TAKE THAT! *INSERT HUGE GRIN* 

I earned an A in my History of Harlem class as well.  My gpa is now 3.86…can we just round that up to 3.9? WOOOOOHOOOOOO!!!

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Birthday Turn-Out Friday, Sep 25 2009

The staff there were super accomodating and friendly.  I would absolutely go back.  The views made my jaw drop and I pinched myself a couple of times. 

 

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Mexico here I go! Thursday, Sep 17 2009

Manana, I will be on a plane to Cancun…I can’t wait!

Packing is for the birds!

My swimsuits arrived in time, but my Beyonce fave fave fave didn’t fit…BUMMER!

I WILL order a bigger size.I WILL order a bigger size.

My body is not bikini beach ready…I’mma need to improvise.

My birthday dress has a goddess vibe to it.

I have sooo much more to do tonight.

The weather forecasts rain practically the whole time. I’m praying not.  I need God to block that.

This time, 8 years ago I was fighting for my life.  At times I wanted go give up…God blocked it.

We’ll chat when I get back!

BUH BYE NY!

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*Cue Tony Toni Tone* Do you know what today is? Thursday, Jul 23 2009

It’s my blogiversary! Whodathunkit?  Blogging has been great, and at times amazingly therapeutic.  I don’t think when I started that I thought I’d still be doing it in a year.  It’s been a great ride.  Many of you have been really supportive by lending an ear or giving advice.  God willing, there will be many great things to share in the future.  XOXOXOXO to you all…cuz I’m feeling real sappy like that today!

 

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Tampa Tuesday, Jul 21 2009

I spent my weekend in Tampa and a grrrrrreat time.  It sucked coming back…literally, but I won’t focus on that.  I met my god-brother’s wife and quickly came to ADORE her!! Phew! Her lil girls are beautiful and I could just eat them up.  I’m really happy he has a good woman.

We stayed at the In.tercon.tinental hotel.  It was nice…business oriented..which I knew, close to the airport, but far from where everyone else was staying.  We were up at 4:30 am and arrived in Tampa at 10 am-ish.  My god-brother Rok and his fiancee picked us up.  I didn’t rent a car so I was at the mercy of someone picking me up and dropping me off.  I thought she was lovely. We went straight to church.  After service we headed back to their house where lunch was being prepared for friends and family.  There were about 30-35 people there.  I was able to connect with friends that also came in from out of town that I haven’t seen in a long time (although we’re all in NY…shame).

We ate, we laughed…the kids ran around..and I observed.  I watched her…her family…how they interacted together.  I kept thinking I REALLLLLY like this girl.  After some folx started leaving she had an opportunity to sit down and put her feet up…and she just smiled.  Then she said..”I love this“.  Her friend questioned…and she replied “family is here…we’re laughing…I love family…I wish it could always be like this“.  I related to her.  I actually think we’re similar in a few ways. 

By 6:00 I was ret to go.  I was so tired and just wanted to lay down.  They were planning to go to the church and finish decorating.  Rok took me to the hotel, then said he’d come back for me so that we could all go to the church.  I said ok, but I wondered how he could pull that off since my hotel really was out of the way.

Once I got in the room I was ready to collapse! I told Bird that I was going to take a nap…she suggested that I read a book instead..lol.  That was at 6:45pm. I woke up at 12:36am to the shrill of my cell phone, completely disoriented.  Needless to say Rok didn’t come back for me.  He called to apologize which was unnecessary.  Then he said the unthinkable.  The wedding was later at 3:00 pm.  He arranged to have someone pick me up, but she had to come get me at 9:00am.  I was near tears.  There was no way I could get up at 7:30 and wear a dress and those shoes for hours before the wedding.  I didn’t want to wear reg clothes and then have to lug my other clothes around.  Nope.  There had to be another way.  He said it would cost me a grip to take a cab.  Oh well….a grip may have to be paid cuz there’s just no way.   I needed some down time.

The next morning we took our time getting up…we ate breakfast and then hit the roof-top pool.

I met a woman who was there with her daughter from Houston.  This is Bird’s candid shot of me.

We couldn’t stay for long but it was nice to get it in.  The wedding was wonderful…there were definitely a few hiccups, but thats weddings for ya.

Reception…more laughing and dancing

 

Their marriage is in my prayers.  A wedding is nice, but the lifetime commitment is what really matters.  I’m happy for them.

This is my weekend turn-out!

What ya’ll get into?

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TGIF…for the memories Thursday, Jul 2 2009

WOO HOOOO!!! That’s how I’m feelin’…its my Friday..my joy runneth over. 

I was chatting with S23 yesterday about travel…I love how she travels.  She is on the go.  Yesterday I updated my FB status and I said money surrounds you with things…not happiness.  I wasn’t trying to be all preachy….my heart just felt like its the good spirit of people…family and friends that really make for happiness.  Many celebrities have the world at their fingertips and are not happy.  Let me ’splain…if you wanna give me a fat check I’ll take it (if I know you!)…but that isn’t where my treasure is.

I didn’t make this one of my goals at the beginning of the year..but it’s going to be my mid-year goal.  I want to create more happy memories with friends.  When I look back at pictures of good times that I’ve had with friends it makes my heart swell…when I look at my things….my gucci bags..ok well that makes me happy too…but you get my point! lol…its different.  I don’t have memories of my material possessions.  I know so many people that are chasing the dollar…they just aren’t laughing…living and loving.

I communicate with some of you off of this here blog.  I want to thank you for your friendship.  I feel blessed to share my madness with you.  Money can’t buy genuine friendship and it’s a good thing cuz I don’t have much.

I commit to Laughing…Living…Loving with my friends and I look forward to meeting you all soon!

Here’s to friends and creating more lasting memories

CreoleInDC

 TBS

My gals

So what are you getting into this weekend? Hopefully creating great memories!

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