Letter from Roscoe Thursday, Nov 5 2009

I was greeted by this on the dining room table last night when I came home from school…..tired.

 I’mma need Bird to get off my  back…lol.  I’m not even sure what she’s talking about.  Ok…I may have not reviewed her work Monday night.  I think it was because they didn’t have school on Tuesday and they were in chillax mode.  The bad news is I forgot to give her $ for the book fair this morning…but she did too, so who’s fault is that??  Huh?? *sigh*

I did check her work last night.  I made a few highlightss that she corrected this morning. 

The girls REALLLY keep me on my toes.  I think I do a good job, but they are great about reminding me of things that I may let fall through the cracks simply because there is just soooo much on my mind. 

Just yesterday T reminded me to remind her pick-up that she won’t be out of school until 5:00pm due to Xmas show rehearsals.  I really do appreciate those reminders because I would surely forget.  Her pick up would arrive at 2:55 and then I’d have to apologize profusely.

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Love Letter from Roscoe Thursday, Oct 29 2009

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Weekend Turn-out Monday, Oct 12 2009

My massage was a big disappointment. It wass my fault tho…I didn’t request the guy who rocked my world.  This woman talked through it.  I pointed out a cut on my ankle so she’d be careful…she asked me how I got it, I explained I got it during my excursion in Cancun.  Then she asked if my vacation was expensive..smh.  When I was trying to relax I heard her stomach grumble.  Every so often it seems as though she was gasping for air…was she asthmatic?  I kept wishing it was over.   She sat on the edge of the table a few times.  She had no real technique other than just rubbing.   Unfortunately, for me it was a waste. 

I had a mouse in my house…I won’t tell you how I screamed and carried on, and I won’t tell you that when I took my mom to embark on her cruise the girls called me in sheer hysteria.  I also won’t mention that I was secretly glad that I wasn’t home.

I will say that the guy that I’ve been getting to know saved the day.  The girls jumped ship…they were like “We’re going to Daddy’s house and not coming back until it’s gone“  I don’t blame them at all.  I have a cat named Boots.  Boots was about her b.i.zness, but this game was taking too long.  Before my friend left last night I had him do some more checking.   He killed it, I was glad and then he felt bad. Oh well.  IT’S DEAD and now I can rest easy.  Rest easy is just what I did.  So much so that I woke up an hour late this morning.  I didn’t even rush.  I took my time.  That rest was much needed.

On Saturday my girls got baptized.  I was  SUPER PROUD MAMA! We’ve had a crusade going on at the church for 3 weeks.  The first week they asked parents to bring their young children.  I took the girls up…I didn’t realize it was for baptism.  T wasn’t having it.  I talked to her for a bit about the importance of this decision.  She listened and said no..so I left it alone.  The following Sabbath, she said..”Mommy I’m going to get baptized next week”.  I gave her a BRIGHT smile..and she said “don’t smile at me”…lol.  So Sabbath came…Bird decided she wanted to do it too.  We were in the back so that they could change into their baptismal robes.  T started to feel anxious and she wanted to renege.  Anxious went to panic with her shaking her head saying no.  Then she says to me “I’m not ready…you made me do it” *insert OH NO YOU DIDN’T JUST SAY THAT face*.  I leaned in and said “I never forced you to do this…we talked about it..you said no and I left it alone”.  “But I kept thinking about it” “Well if you were thinking about it then that is the Holy Spirit speaking…is the Holy Spirit STILL speaking to you?” *silence*  I then asked Bird if she still wanted to do it if T didn’t do it.  She got very emotional and cried in her hands. She didn’t answer, but her actions told me that she really wanted to do it, but she wanted to do it with her sister.  I left her alone with her thoughts and I prayed for her.  At the end of the service she was ready.

(I cut the video short because afterwards I couldn’t get any footage past that dang blue blanket.  I later found out that sometimes when they go down womens underparts are exposed so they use the blanket for privacy.)

T was SOOOOOO HAPPY! She kept saying “I feel sooo goood! I’m soo happy we made the right choice!”  Bird was happy as well.  As a mom I was overwhelmed with joy.

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WWYD? Thursday, Sep 10 2009

I received a call from a girlfriend this morning.  She wanted advice.  She has a neighbor whom she doesn’t know very well, but who has on more than one occasion asked if she could babysit her 3 yr old son while she runs to the store.   Usually this run to the store takes several hours.  My friend says she does it because she feels a lil bad for the girl.  Fool me once…fool me twice..hmph.

Yesterday, she came with the same request around 3 pm.  At 7:30 am this morning the mother still has not returned.  After she went through the long version of this story she asked if she should call the cops.  I replied that I felt that was THE ONLY option she had.  She went through somersaults about feeling bad for the little boy …”what are they going to do with him?”…”I don’t want to be responsible for a mother losing her child”…etc.  I got annoyed and told her I was hanging up because it was obvious to me she wasn’t seeking advice.

I wouldn’t feel bad for anyone except that lil boy since he’s got a mother with some serious issues.  Let the authorities do what they are trained to do.

WWYD? Was I harsh?

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1st day of School… Wednesday, Sep 9 2009

..and I’m so glad.  Last night I was stressed myself into a tizzy.  I was completely overwhelmed.  I left work 30 mins early to get a jump start on preparing for today.  I had to wash, condition and style Bird’s hair.  That’s always a feat.  T wanted her hair blown out.  I didn’t have extra $$ to accomodate that request so she said she’d wash and blow it so that I could go over it with the flat iron…fine. 

Well it took me 2 hours to finish Bird’s hair in between doing 2 loads of laundry.  By 8 pm I was exhausted.  Looking at T’s hair made me wanna cry.  It’s just sooooo much.  Using my very expensive flat iron was comical.  I need to find another conditioner for T’s hair stat.  What we’re using isn’t making the grade.  She may have seen the defeat in my eyes.  She told she would just wet her hair and wear it curly.  That weight was lifted, but I still felt burdened…to the point of tears.

There is no one to pass anything off to.  If I don’t do hair who’s gonna do it? If I don’t prepare the meal…If I don’t make sure the home is tidy..and it ain’t right now and that makes me VERY uncomfortable.  All of it is just exhausting sometime, but I wouldn’t trade them for the world. 

We all made it to bed at a decent hour and that was my biggest concern.  I wanted all of us to be well rested and prepared for today.

Yesterday, I called the girls and made sure they tuned into the President’s address.  I watched it online and his words made me emotional.  I heard it as a parent that wants so much for my girls.  Sometimes words of encouragement are few and far between.  The words he spoke were words of support and encouragement.  It felt like he was speaking directly to us.  This year we will strive harder and put in an even greater effort.  We will live up to our fullest potential.

For the past two weeks I’ve been searching for a math tutor for T.  She’s been struggling and its worn on her esteem.  I can not have that.  I’m happy that she’s attending the school she wanted to go to.  She’ll be dancing 4x a week. I won’t have to listen to her nag me about dance class.

Bird has a natural talent for music.  She used to take piano lessons and she was really good.  I could not keep up the lessons.  I was just discussing this with my godbrother yesterday.  Well, this morning I saw a notice at their afterschool program that piano lessons are being offered twice per week!

I pray that this will be a rewarding and fulfilling school year for all of us, my family and yours. 

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Hitched Thursday, Sep 3 2009

Bird:  Are you gonna get married? 

Me: I would like too

Bird: Will I have to call him Daddy?

Me: No…what would you want to call him?

Bird: Daddy

I don’t know why she said this. I guess its some void she feels.  R has been making a much greater effort since his mom passed.  I’m hoping its not temporary.

So often I get caught up in I want x,y and z…you know…my list of requirements in a mate.   Then He reminds me that He is preparing to give me someone not only for today, but for 10, 15, 20 years…a lifetime partner.  I know what I’d like now, but I have NO clue what I’m going to need then.  I gotta fall back and hush.

There is someone who I had no intention of entertaining, but for the past two weeks I have felt compelled to. I really don’t know why other than feeling that I would hate to block my blessing if he is that…soo…we’ll see.  I’ll keep ya posted.

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Weekend Turn-Out Monday, Aug 31 2009

This turned out to be a great weekend for the Kellyinaday household, but let me tell you how it started.

Tomorrow, the 1st is Bird’s bday. She’ll be 8! She wants the Han.nah.Mon.tana. p.sp. game. Do you know how much that thing costs?? $200 +tax. When did bday gifts for kids become that expensive??? Bird is a great girl so I’m happy to get it for her, but that meant no party. I can’t do both. I did say that we could do a pre-bday celebration on Sunday. She could choose a friend and we’d go to her place of choice. She chose build.a.bear. and her friend C. C belongs to this crew. I called C’s mom on Tuesday to see if she’d be available. After she confirmed I told her that I’d be in touch on Friday to firm up the details. I called Friday morning..left a vm. I called again Friday evening, and left another message. While I was having devotion with the girls she called…I didn’t answer cuz we talking to God.

I called her right back after we were finished. I left her another vm asking her a couple of questions…again. She returned my call late, I was already sleeping, but again no msg. So now we’re playing phone tag and no info is being exchanged.

I called again on Saturday…vm. I called bright and early on Sunday..I mean this is THE day. She answered and said she gave birth last night. Awwwwww….congrats! I ask if C is still available. She says yes…and we make plans to have her Dad drop her by my house at 1:00. When 1:00 rolled around I was still getting new tires put on my car, so I gave her call. I didn’t reach her but she called me back. At this point I’m ready to pick up C if necessary. She says “C won’t be able to make it this time. Maybe they can do something another day…C is in Connecticut with her Aunt and I don’t think her Dad is bringing her by any time soon” *eyes stretched* “Tell Bird I’m sorry…if circumstances were different….” I said “ok…I’ll let her know” I was HAWT! I think that is beyond rude…beyond rude. This is THE only lil girl that was invited to come along. You didn’t mention to her Dad that she had a date on Sunday?? I don’t understand.

I called my mom to let off a lil steam. The girls were in the car. When I finished off the phone I walked back to the car and Bird’s face was sooo low. I asked “what’s wrong pumpkin” She says “I know C isn’t coming…I heard you” “Ooops! Mommy talks too loud huh??” I ask her what she wants to do…she still wants to go..so we rolled out as planned with T in tow. AND WE HAD A BALL! She loves her bear…she got extra goodies and I didn’t have to spend a penny on someone else’s pickney…hmph.

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Weekend turn-out Monday, Jul 27 2009

I got my big girl on Friday.  It was great to see her.  Bird and I really missed her but darnnit if she didn’t quickly remind me of just how funkyshe can be.  On the way driving home she’s like “so ya’ll are giving me a surprise party right?” “errr….no“   She was convinced that surely she was coming home to a parade.  She called up my mother saying the same thing…even went as far as to say she would act surprised…smh.  I made her favorite dish for dinner instead.

Saturday I visited a church in Harlem.  There was some mighty fine specimens in the house that glorious morning and the sermone was good..lol.  Saturday night I set out to henna my hair.  It’s been so long that I forgot that I was supposed to mix the henna on Friday to apply it Saturday night.  I mixed it up and applied it Saturday afternoon.  After I rinsed the henna out I applied the indigo.  

I sat with the indigo for an hour and rinsed it out….as best as I could.  The indigo is a bit gritty, but I would and plan to use it again.

I twisted my hair and then used my satin foam rollers to set.

The henna did not give me jet black hair on my ends where the color was.  I will use indigo again…maybe this weekend. 
This could easily be a mug shot photo.

Saturday night T came to tell me she had blood in her underwear.  She showed me and its confirmed.  It’s here.   I wonder if that’s why she’s so cranky and funky.  I hope so…at least then there’s a legit excuse. Kill me now. 

 I watched ‘88 minutes’ and ‘He’s just not.that into you’ this weekend.  I wasn’t really impressed with either.  Thats my weekend turn-out. 

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Weekend turn-out Tuesday, Jun 30 2009

I’m delinquent..yes I know…I ‘pologize!

My weekend was great tho.  Saturday night we went to R’s Mom’s 60th bday party at a restaurant.  It was nice to see his family members and they got a chance to see how big the girls have grown.  The downside was that Bird started complaining about her stomach hurting…then she had a fever…in like 20 mins.  I had them wrap our food, and I took her home.

Meanwhile back on the ranch…my cousins and their families came in from Maryland.  They were at my place turning it upside down.  I don’t have my air conditioner’s in yet so it was hot as hades.

Sunday we all to breakfast and then to visit my grandmother in the nursing home.  It’s really depressing, but she got to see her grandchildren that she’s never met.  Then they were back on the road with T in tow.  Yup…T is in Mary Land.  Not quite…she called me 5 times yesterday…for nothing.  I got her a cell phone…she kept asking me how many minutes she had.  I suppose thats a good thing…because if my cell phone bill looks like a lotto winnings check she’s gonna get cut.

What’s interesting is that T barely wanted to give me a hug before she left.  She did not give Bird a hug and I didn’t force her to.  Bird was kinda like watev anyway.  I wish I could push the accelerator on these hormonal changes.  She’ll be there for 4 weeks.  My cousin’s husband is a math teacher and he’s going to give her some much needed tutoring. 

When she gets back the plan is to send them both to ATL for quality time with god-mommies and Aunties.

I have never been child-free like that….not sure I’ll know what to do with myself!

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Weekend turn-out Monday, Jun 8 2009

My weekend was going just fine until T got sick…AGAIN!  This poor girl.  It’s been a realllly rough season for both the girls.  From one second to the next she took a bad turn.  I took her to Urgent Care on Sunday.  The doctor said its Influenza…so I’m like “She JUST had that two weeks ago”  He explained thats how Influenza is…not the jokers walkn’ round saying they have the flu and then they’re all good in a couple of days. 

He was also concerned about mono because her throat was extremely tender and sore  The nurse drew blood for the test.  She couldn’t get a good position on the vein in her arm so she drew it from her hand.  T is a trooooooper!  At her age I’da died.  My heart swelled.  The dr. called me with the results and they were negative…thats a great thing.  In the meantime I’m back to nursing another sick kid.  We need this to be completely gone…sooner rather than later.

In other news, Bird and I have some fun taking pics before we headed to church. 

I say she get it from her MOMMA!

The garage isn’t the best backdrop but we were running late, and I was slightly aggravated by T…lol

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