Kellyinaday

Happy Sabbath – Praise

kellyinaday — Sat, 28 Jan 2012 00:24:33 +0000

I LOVE LOVE gospel music. There’s nothing else that touches my soul like it. I want to be more Christ like. It reminds me how grateful I am for ALLL He’s done in my life. He is the lover of my soul. Thank you Jesus!

I have a lil sumthin sumthin in me as well

Rock the vote!

kellyinaday — Mon, 23 Jan 2012 23:01:05 +0000

I’m all for helping others and spreading the word. I just read BayouCreole’s blog. She’s asking for support on behalf of her SIL who’s competing with other women for a weight loss contest.

Watching her video it was clear how much this means to her. If you have a sec please follow the link and vote for Andrea. It would be dope if we could all band together and shut this down for Andrea. Please head over to Mamavation, scroll down until you see Andrea’s name, check the box next to her name, and scroll down some more to cast your vote. Thx

Sidenote: She got me blogging! lol Have a great week.

HNY and all that good stuff

kellyinaday — Wed, 18 Jan 2012 02:47:12 +0000

Friends+Family=FANTASTIC HOLIDAY BREAK! A much needed one as well.

Rewind

T had a FABULOUS time at Alvin Ailey. It takes a lot to please and satisfy my girl, but she was WOW’D! (In a girl that has everything kinda way) She said “Mommy, how’d you get these tickets, who do you know??” She knows that her mom BE knowing some folx *pops collar* Jokes aside, she really appreciated the experience. She took note of how strong a soloist feet were. She whispered it in my ear. What do I know about strong feet?? We had a great time. Hopefully I can make this a Mother/Daughter tradition.

Me and Bird at WWE Raw Holiday Tour! (or is it Bird and I? correct me) Awesome. She didn’t know her surprise until we walked into the Verizon Center and I had the woman our tickets. She dropped her head and cover her eyes in shock. Priceless! I have to say there were wayyyy more adults shouting and acting a fool. They know it’s not real right? I didn’t always know, then again I was a kid. There’s a post coming on that.

John…See-nah is *SWOOON*

We hung out with CreoleinDc for a couple of days. We had a GREAT time. She’s such a good hostess, not in a “Let me be a good hostess kinda way”, in a “I want you to feel at home” kinda way. Here are a few shots.

Bird at WWE RAW

T and Jaru

This is my family’s newest edition. He’s delicious!

And then there’s THIS!

Sexual chocolate! Hilarious!

I hope you all had a wonderful holiday with your families. Thanks again for your check-ins and support on this lil blog of mine. It’s a pleasure to share with you all. This is going to be an awesome year!

A few months in the making

kellyinaday — Tue, 20 Dec 2011 15:08:49 +0000

Tomorrow is my last final of my first semester of law school!!!! Thank you Jesus! I’ve grown so much over the past few months. There have been assignments that at first glance I could have easily said “ummm…I don’t know how to analyze this” or whatever. Obviously, I really can’t do that, so it has forced to me tackle things that seem so far over my head. Never in the moment am I grateful for the challenge, but right after the exam?? YASSSS I did it! I don’t know how well I did it, but I faced it head on.

I’ve had other challenges besides just academic here in deer/moose/bear country. It’s been a challenge dealing with R, to say the least. On two occasions I’ve come close to jumping on the road to pick up my girls. These challenges have not been “I would have done it this way, rather than that way” challenges. They’ve been “this dude has some cognitive deficits” challenges. Smh We’re at the half way point so I’m holding on.

I’ll share my most recent battle. I had plans to return to NY, and head to MD on Xmas eve for a week. Our communication has been below sea level. I didn’t communicate my plans with him. Not intentionally. I’m used to making my plans and doing my thing, plus like I said, there’s been so much tension that we barely speak. T told him about our plans, he called and told me he wants the girls on Xmas. He doesn’t want me to pick them up until the 26th. In an effort to compromise I suggested he have them Xmas eve, and Xmas morning. I could pick them up Xmas afternoon so I could still make it to the fam in MD for the festivities. No…he says. He wants them the entire day. His best argument is that he’s never had them for any holiday since we’ve been separated. True? Absolutely. Has he ever made any plans where he’s expressed wanting to incorporate them? Negative. It pissed me off and it hurt. You use the year that I’m away, the year where I miss them so much it hurts sometimes, to pull this crap? Had he EVER asked to have them it wouldn’t be an issue. Low blow, you can’t play that card sir. I said what I had to say, and I left it alone. I’m not going to fight about it.

I’m not going to let it shake my feel good. T is a dance major, she’s in the 8th grade now! I can’t believe it. Anywhoo, when I get back on the 22nd, its a surprise, but I’m taking her to see the Alv-inA-ileyCo-mpany perform downtown. I’m so excited, I hope she enjoys it. I know I will!

I have a surprise for Bird as well, I’ll tell ya’ll about it next week.

I watched a documentary “Forks over Knives.” Heard of it? I’m already pescetarian…almost 2.5 years now, but after seeing this I’m really considering going vegan. We’ll see.

I’ve been on “Operation Tight Waist” since Thanksgiving. I’m 35, I’m not in bad shape. I have the acceptable muffin top. You know the muffin top that one might expect after someone has had 2 kids, and hasn’t really fallen off, just not tight. That’s me. But I want wanna be tight. I’ve stopped eating after 7pm…generally I eat at 6pm/ I drink lots of water with lemon. That’s been wonderful. It’s replaced my cokes and coffee. It keeps me perky way beyond those eye glazing afternoon classes. A difference most definitely. I do zumba twice a week. I started power walking the morning, which was great also. We had one real cold and rainy morning, and that was all she wrote.

I’m going to see how I can document and share the changes to my body without really putting myself out there.

I miss ya’ll!!

Fa la la #fail

kellyinaday — Sun, 04 Dec 2011 01:19:18 +0000

Hiiii! This is a quick post to petition your help. Although my mom is a single woman, and doesn’t have kids in the home, she enjoys looking at a pretty tree….a little pretty tree. Well, what she has ain’t pretty. She texted me photos of her poor tree and I cracked up. I don’t even know what to tell her to do.

Can you help my mom out? What could possibly make this tree look like it has christmas spirit?

Thanks in advance!

Random on this journey

kellyinaday — Wed, 24 Aug 2011 23:40:47 +0000

I became cool with a professor and shared some of my goals towards the end of my fall semester. He offered to write a recommendation letter for me. It was wonderful. When I shared the news that I had been accepted into school he was amazingly supportive. SOOO supportive that he offered to cover my moving expenses. Shall I repeat? He PAID for my move to Deer/Moose/Bear Country. He made this offer without knowing the cost….I didn’t even know the cost…at that time I had not found a place to call home. God moves.

Emotionally, I’m having highs and lows. Although I’m full of praise, I’m having a valley moment. The girls are doing well. T has been having a mild case of cabin fever living with R, to the point where she asked when she could come to Deer/Moose/Bear country. I’ll be sure to remind her of the moment when she asked if she could come. I’m sure we’ll experience moments when she wants to return to NYC.

Bird is having a good time with her little brother. We love the moments when we can skype with each other. I’m going to buy a cam for them to use at R’s house.

Last week I learned how to brief a case and analyze a fact pattern…JOY JOY JOY!

Most people here are very friendly. I went hiking yesterday. I figured if it’s ever safe to go, it’s safe to do it with the Dean. About 2 minutes in it was very apparent I wasn’t cut out for it. Funny how much enthusiasm I had to begin with.

Earlier in the week I received my financial aid info. It’s not pretty. In fact, it’s real tight. The fact that it’s a budget for 9 months, and my expenses don’t disappear after 9 months was even scarier. BUT I just told you how I got moved up here right? I’d kinda be playing myself at this point if I started worrying about Junes’ troubles.

I have a guy who always shouts me out if I’m within 6 ft of him. At first he was funny. Yesterday, after the hike there was a nice bbq on campus. Some upperclass men formed a band, and they were performing. He says “hey Kelly..this is NO block party, right” I chuckle, shrug, watev, and then he starts to “raise the roof” and says “you know what I mean?” He received a side eye and a “No…I don’t know what you mean.”

I PRAY for us both that he doesn’t make me formally introduce myself. I don’t know if he’s trying to be vicious or if he’s just being ignorant, and thinks that’s the way I relate as an African American. Prior to this he’s only made comments about “us city folk,” he’s from upstate NY so I find humor in his sarcasm, but it seems like he’s working his way into dangerous territory. I was talking to a guy here, and being such a minority, I can see how some people may step out of line. For example, he said that a few guys walked by him one day and threw up gang signs.

What do ya’ll think? WWYD?

I’m going home next weekend. Bird’s bday is on the 1st. I can’t wait to hug my girls.

Earlier this week I received an encouraging card with a gift card inside. It was so needed. I felt renewed, and I was sooooo thankful.

Now that I’ve released a bit, my mood is on the come up

I feel the age difference here. If you ever hear/read me say/write “totally” or “super,” SHOOT me…seriously.

Freak out

kellyinaday — Wed, 20 Jul 2011 14:36:50 +0000

The other night I was on the phone with my mother, and she said “I feel so sorry for you and the girls” *insert watindawhurl face* ”Why me?” “Because you’re gonna be all alone, and you’re such a social person, it’s going to be such a shock for you” I don’t remember what my response was, but it was an easy transition to the next topic. Before I went to sleep I read an article that started off as a serious joke. A girl who was in law school was trying to figure out how she could study and shower without getting her book wet. Intense. The rest of the article was on time management skills in school. That night I didn’t sleep very well. 12:30, 1:00, 2:30…I kept waking up in a panic as though I was late for something. I had to reassure myself that it was not time for me to get up yet, and that I would wake up when I was supposed to because I set my alarm. *exhale*

The next day I spent about 3 hours crying…could not stop myself, about how lonely I’m going to be.

Oh be careful little eyes what you see. Oh be careful little ears what you hear. Fo’ real.

Adverse what???

kellyinaday — Wed, 20 Jul 2011 11:37:29 +0000

http://www.worldstarhiphop.com/videos/video.php?v=wshh9wYPxvuB4Le24J33

My divided attention

kellyinaday — Tue, 19 Jul 2011 18:51:52 +0000

I was at R’s family bbq on Sunday. It was really nice to catch up with a few people. His cousin pulled me over for a celebratory scream re: school. We screamed and embraced….it was nice. In my next breathe I was chastising my friend for bringing me a piece of watermelon when I clearly said I wanted chocolate cake. Anywhoo, she let me have a few minutes before she brought it to my attention. She said “Kelly, you get very easily distracted” I thought “huh?” It was so random to me, but she’s right, and then she said “You’re gonna have to get that under control for school” SHE’S RIGHT! Then a couple of other people chimed in to note their own experience with me getting distracted and with HER getting distracted with them as well. Distracted people recognize distracted people. I am going to have to get a handle on it for school. It doesn’t take much for me to get distracted. *sucks teeth* When I was researching for papers, my snacks distracted me. Seriously. In typing this post, I’ve been distracted a handful of times. I get distracted in prayer. I zone out during conversations. I have “uh huh” and “mmmm” down to a rhythmic science.

This was something that I committed to working on some months ago. I need to get back to that place again. Being present.

On the move….

kellyinaday — Thu, 14 Jul 2011 23:05:44 +0000

Things are coming together. I made a trip to Deer Country with intentions to sign a lease. T and I got on the road. The first place we saw had “The Shack”(the book) appeal. Very old, dirt road. No bueno. The view was interesting, across the street was a river where people kayak or float using inner tubes. Not a feature on my must have’s list. The second place had funny ceilings, and a stove about the size of a water cooler. By the time I got to the 5th place, T and I were overjoyed at the sight of nice hardwood floors. Indoor/Outdoor carpet seems to be what’s up. I kinda hate it. I felt good in this place…like it could be home. It was definitely more $$$ than I wanted to spend. For example, for a one bedroom it cost more than a 3 bedroom that we saw, but sometimes it be’s like dat. A major bonus was that I have a 6×10 storage unit, an onsite laundry room, and a cute picnic style backyard. Oh and how could I forget, my heat is included…that’s big. It’s walking distance from my school, but most of the properties I checked out were as well. I feel relieved that this is checked off of my to-do list.

T had the stank face at first step inside the first property until we got to this one. Then her face glowed! She started getting all chatty with the landlord. She likes the idea of us moving into the 2bdrm duplex when it times for them to join me. Oh yeah…that. The girls are going to stay with R for the school year. They will both graduate from their schools this coming school year. It didn’t feel right to pull them from their graduating class to come to Deer Country. Plus, I hear that the first year is a killa. It’ll definitely be a good thing to be able to focus 100% on me and acclimating to a new learning style/environment. I’ve prayed about it, and it feels like the right thing to do. I have to come to terms with releasing the reins on ~~some~~ ~~most~~ things, and letting R do what he feels is best as a temporary custodial parent. This is going to be very very different for me.

Back to the 2 bdrm, next August a 2 bdrm will be available, and T was trying negotiate us taking it over. It’s a nice duplex unit. It has a slider door to the backyard. It’s VERY expensive. She has it priced where two students would split it. It would be ideal if I didn’t have to make a major move, but again it’s expensive, so I’ll cross that bridge when I get to it.

Now I’m researching moving companies. It’s SOOOOOO expensive! God has been so good. In the over a year that I’ve been out of work with NO unemployment benefits, I haven’t needed to borrow a dime from anyone. That’s a blessing. That may very well be changing. Can I borrow a dollar????